Reasons Biblically

I was curious how well our students live out this SOS (Student Outcome Statement), so I asked a few groups of students how they make important decisions. The good news is that the seniors, for the most part, had a much better decision-making process than the middle schoolers! The seniors mainly reflected on their process of deciding which university to attend, while the middle schoolers were considering whether or not to join a certain team or try out an activity.

One common answer I heard was using logical thinking to make decisions. Some of the students made pro/con lists, while others considered how a decision may impact their future. Research was involved for some. There is actually a biblical basis for this being part of the decision-making process, with a number of verses in Proverbs focusing on gaining wisdom. “The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out.” (Proverbs 8:15)

Many students also mentioned praying about a decision. James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” Asking God for wisdom and guidance in making decisions is definitely a good step, but the students had mixed and incomplete answers as to how they would understand an answer from God. They talked about having peace, following the opportunities that exist, and doing what makes them happy. This is a good opportunity for parents to pray with their children and help them learn to listen and watch for God’s response.

The most concerning response was “roll the dice” or “spin the wheel online.” One student did mention praying before rolling the dice, but I still think this avenue is not based on biblical truth. Leaving major decisions to chance is not wise, nor does it generally lead to the best outcomes. This is another point for parents to talk about with their students.

The most repeated answer I heard was to go to other people for advice. The seniors said they would talk with their parents or other “older” people, and a few middle schoolers said the same thing. Proverbs 11:14 says, “Where there is no guidance the people fall, but in an abundance of counselors there is victory.” Kids want to hear what their parents think about their decisions. This gives you a great opportunity to speak truth to your children and help them to grow in their decision-making skills.

I pray for God’s blessings on the conversations you have with your children as you nurture and guide them in their journeys.