“We will continue to fear the unknown. There will always be dragons on our maps and in our minds, but learning how to slay the dragons can be a life skill for us to teach our children and ourselves.”
The dragons or beasts found on some of those old maps makes sense when you think about it. We as humans are afraid of the unknown and back then much of the world was “unknown”. So drawing a dragon or sea creature on the map was a way to communicate, “we do not know what is out there so you should be careful and afraid.”
The actual term for fearing the unknown is “xenophobia”. In recent years this term has been used mostly to describe fearing an unknown person / stranger. By definition when we are fearing the unknown, we are acting xenophobic. The reason we fear the unknown is that as human beings we spend our lives negotiating and planning for the future. Every morning we wake up and are making decisions and going through the day living in the here and now but working towards and anticipating the future. The problem with the unknown is that when we do not know much about something or someone we cannot predict the future and what the possible outcomes might be. This inability to predict the future creates anxiety and uncertainty in our minds which ultimately leads to the emotion of fear.
There are some things we can do to lessen the fear of the unknown for ourselves and our children.
- Try to do some research. As you learn more, the unknown becomes known and many of your fears may dissipate.
- Pay attention to the predictions you are making (in your head) that are creating the fear and evaluate them to see if they are actually valid.
- Stay grounded in the here and now and don’t let your imagination run away with your predictions of the future. Remember last week we learned that 92% of our fears are not actually based in reality or are legitimate.
- Talk to someone about it. Often just talking with someone helps you to think it through and lowers your anxiety and lessens your fears.
Written by Karl Steinkamp
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